Evil Hypnodommes

(Julia - with hand on heart.) I Julia do solemnly swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help me God.

Interviewer: Julia, now that you have been sworn in let's get straight to the point. It is rumored that you believe that all commerical dommes, hypno and otherwise, are terrible, ruthless people and that you Julia - Evil Cowgirl that you are - have determined it is your mission in life to protect submissive men everywhere from the evil wiles of totally ruthless women. Some are once again ... err.. mentioning... yes that's the nice word for it... mentioning that they find such a stance offensive. Comments?

Julia: I think those who continue to hang on to this issue should let go and find something else about which to be upset - like the cost of a good evil cowgirl lasso. Do you have any idea how rare those things are and how much they sell for? It's outrageous! ;)

All teasing aside, please let me clearly state I have never said all pay Dommes hypno or otherwise are bad, unethical, and/or cannot be trusted. I have always encouraged people to exercise caution before becoming entangled with anyone hypnotically or in a D/s situation. Anyone - commercial or not. Why would any sane person let someone toy with their mind or their body without knowing for certain that individual is ethical and safe?

This rumor sprang up a couple of years ago because of a decision I made not to allow advertisement of any kind for commercial Dommes in my yahoo group. This decision was never meant as an aspersion towards pay Dommes and I've explained this a number of times. Why this rumor will not die is beyond me, but this is the last time I will address it. Are there dangerous hypnodommes and commercial Dommes out there? Absolutely. Not all professional Dommes are dangerous and not not all lifestyle Dommes are safe. Some simply get their kicks from being extremely cruel and unsafe while others want to take whatever they can get from you. There are also safe, ethical Dommes both commercial and lifestyle. I've never publicly labeled anyone as a negative force, rather I've simply pointed out things I consider risky or down right dangerous.

To stay safe with D/s and D/s hypnoplay, know yourself. Know the basics. Know the person with whom you are about to play. Use good common sense that is based on sound information.


Related Links:

Hypnosensuality 101
More on Hypnosis Safety
Why Do You Do Hypnosis MP3s for Free? (aka Why Aren't You a Pro Domme?
BDSM Safety

Note - I am not an expert on safety. My articles are written as expressions of things that work for me. I strongly encourage you to do your own research. There is a ton of stuff online and also excellent BDSM primers availble through in bookstores.

Maintaining Perspective

(I can't remember where I found this photo so if I lifted it from your blog or site, I'm sorry for not crediting you. I just loved it!)

Recently I received the following email from a man who had joined my YahooGroup and downloaded at least some of my MP3s. I attempted to ask his permission to quote him but his return email account is closed. To protect his privacy I've removed anything that I believe could identify him so that his words could be heard.

"I was just getting more and more interested in erotic hypnosis, and have only recently begun to listen to files. However, I noticed that they took up so much of my time, and get me into a different reality.

Though this is interesting to explore, I also know that it can be dangerously seductive. And since my girlfriend is away for a longer time, I cannot allow myself this to happen now. Just after i read some of your ethics txt files on your site, i decided to delete my account, delete all MP3's and wait for exploration till the two of us are together again.

Since you are concerned and ethical about this subject, I do feel that you might like hearing this. Thus without knowing you, I am very grateful, since you might have just saved a lot of nasty things from happening. "

I completely understand and applaud this man's respect for his girlfriend and for himself. Exploring hypnotic D/s is almost indescribably exciting but it should never be allowed to interfere with one's life or with one's relationships. Since this is an issue for him, he should indeed wait for the direction of his Mistress. When they're together, perhaps she can use the MP3s and/or hypnosis as a tool.

When considering the use of any hypnotic D/s MP3s or sessions, listen and explore reasonably. If you:

• are listening for hours a day
• find you're becoming consumed with thoughts of the hypnotist/Domme
• are consumed with reading about hypno D/s online
• find you're spending money you can't afford in order to buy MP3s or 1:1 sessions from someone
• find that your relationships are suffering
• find you're neglecting your responsibilities

then things have gone too far. Some initial excitement and enthusiasm isn't unexpected but things should quickly settle into a reasonable quantity of time and effort being expended in this area.