Some Never Learn

I've been visiting with my nieces and nephews this holiday weekend. What a blast! They are so smart and so cute most of the time. Like all kids they'll occasionally fight and someone will have to intervene to explain why they cannot say and do certain things. Overall they're doing really well at learning the basics of interacting with others. Most kids do.

As I was sitting here thinking about them this morning, it occurred to me that there are a few of these basics that some never learn.

1. Putting an innocent look on your face before you say something doesn't fool anyone.

• "I didn't mean to hurt his feelings by saying those things about him. He's just being sensitive. Either that or what I said about him must be true."
• "No, I'm not punching her in the stomach because I read what she wrote about me in her diary. I didn't even know she had a diary."
• "I didn't mean anything when I asked why that lady has a big butt. I was just pondering the concepts of big butts in general and meant nothing against her big butt."

2. Offering the basics of respect to everyone even if they aren't your mommy is common courtesy.

3. Pretending you don't want to be in the club when you haven't been asked to be in the club really fools no one. If you were nicer then people might ask you.

4. Saying "that can't be right! That's not how we do it at my house! My mommy does it differently!" eventually leaves you standing alone on the playground. Everyone's mommy does things a little differently.

5. If you make your version of the game too complicated you strangle all the fun out of it for others. You can't expect everyone to play by your rules or to assign the same value to things that you do.

All in all, I'm proud of my nieces and nephews because even the two who are six have learned more of the basics than some adults.

The Orgasm Gap and Faking It

If you think I was testy yesterday, imagine how irritated I was today to learn college age men orgasm two-and-a-half times more often than college age women. Given that women have the ability to have multiple orgasms then how can they be having orgasms at such a significantly less frequent rate?

Fortunately for me the beauty of being a dominant woman means this is something I do not ever have to worry about ;)

In all seriousness I'm really not at all upset about these latest orgasm-related statistics, but I did think the article was an interesting read and I was a bit surprised by the numbers. According to this study, when male and female college students hook up:

• 44 percent of men orgasm — compared to only 19 percent of their female partners.
• about 16 percent of the time women were much more likely to give oral sex than receive it.
• 25 percent of the time women report having had an orgasm, while the men thought their partners orgasmed 60 percent of the time.
• 97 percent of men have masturbated to orgasm, but only 60 percent of women have done the same.

Obviously statistics don't present a completely accurate view of a situation but I suspect that even if the balance isn't this skewed it is skewed enough to make it an issue worth examining. What do you think leads to such an imbalance? Do you think the age of those surveyed has much to do with the results and if so, is this imbalance likely to increase or decrease as people age?

Aside from the frequency issue consider the stats indicating the number of women who fake orgasms. Were you surprised by those numbers? How concerned are you or have you been with regard to the thought that your partner has/does fake orgasms?

Cruelty

Cruelty disguised as humor is cruelty nonetheless. The disguise fools no one.