About That Man
After reading my accounts of the interactions I've had recently with a neighbor, a friend of mine wrote privately, "I think the gentleman you've been writing about on your blog has put 2 and 2 together and knows your online "identity," but is too polite to explore, for lack of a better term, whether telling you and expressing an interest would be a good or bad thing. Almost like he's hoping you'll say something that gives him "permission" to "go there." Just a thought...."
It's true that I don't want to believe that for many reasons, so maybe I'm in denial, but I think that I'm just more in tune with people using certain phrases and once I catch it, leading them conversationally from there. Think about it - women talk about training men all the time - that's not a strictly Domme statement. Some men talk about being well trained and others talk about their wives trying to train them (with and without success). That's not strictly a submissive thing.
One of my other friends asked me how much of Sunday's story was embellished for storytelling purposes. None of it was. Admittedly I left out a lot of boring details and chat, but what I wrote was what happened. I may have changed the exact words that were said a little bit but that was only a memory thing, not an embellishment thing.
I don't think any of the things that were said are unremarkable at all. In all likelihood this fellow isn't the tiniest bit submissive - I've never thought otherwise. His statements were interesting to me because of how the words usually apply when I hear them, not how I think he meant them. Not sure if that makes sense..
posted by Lady Julia @ 9:33 PM
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Hhmmm!
Definitely questions for another day?
:)
Lady J, I'm sure you know as well as I do that nearly all men have a certain portion of themselves that responds to a dominant woman. You're kidding yourself if you really think this guy has no submissive side.
He may not have a habit of allowing that side to enter into his relationships. Hard to tell at this point. But even if he's not in the habit of it -- he's responding to you as a dominant woman.
I am convinced that nearly all men respond to dominant women of the preferred type. Some want them bitchy, some just want them assertive. Others might prefer motherly. Whatever.
What varies the most is how much the men are willing to allow the dominance to extend outside the bedroom. And of course, the reaction to the inner desires to be dominated in the bedroom. After all, it's "kinky" and "unnatural" and all those other words. And certainly not at all manly, right?
Well, men who are comfortable with who they are don't have problems with those labels. (Which does not necessarily imply the reverse, of course.)
This guy would love to be your playmate for a while. How long a while? Unknown. What do you want to do about it? Also unknown.
I agree with ME here, he's interested. I don't know if he's figured out you blog though. He just likes what he sees ;)
Me remarked: Lady J, I'm sure you know as well as I do that nearly all men have a certain portion of themselves that responds to a dominant woman. You're kidding yourself if you really think this guy has no submissive side.
I admit the day he washed my car I thought, "this man has got to have at least some level of submissiveness in him", however I later began to think that it's pretty simple to read things into something that aren't there (just like the questioners I mentioned above had done).
But even if he's not in the habit of it -- he's responding to you as a dominant woman.
I don't know. It's not like I walk around behaving like the "typical" dominant woman. My style is pretty subtle, even for people who are aware that I am dominant.
Perhaps he interpreted my actions on Sunday as dominant, but they really were more "nurse mode". Yes, I was ordering people about, no I wasn't doing it in a soft, sweet way, but that's not how one deals with a potential crisis. Someone has to take charge. I was the only medically trained person present so logically it was me.
Still.. one of my friends remarked that he thinks D/s people have a sort of built in radar to recognize other dominants and submissives. Perhaps he picked up vibes I was even aware I was sending.
At any rate, it's just a fun, interesting diversion. It's the mystery of it all that's appealing.
This is soooo romantic.
And since I revel in my shallowness…..
What’s he look like?
Is he cute?
Is he the rugged outdoor type like Nigel?
Intellectual and mysterious like Arafinwe?
Or is he sexy like Tom in that “financially mature, AARP with a cute butt” way?
LOL Suzy :)
Should I tell? What if he's really reading as someone suggested? Won't he be all sorts of difficult to deal with if he reads that he appears to be a delicious combination of all three?
He sounds yummy!
OMG. Here’s a thought;
If he really is reading your whole blog, the poor guy’s probably dead from cardiac arrest.
I mean remember “The Toothbrush?
Or the “Touchless”……well you know:)
The point is, if he’s not dead, he’s going to have some really, really, really, high expectations on that first date:)
I’d stick to coffee and a pecan roll at the Waffle House. He pays.
Tell Bill to keep the car running out front.
Of course if he does read your blog then he reading this.
Awkward.
Don’t mind me sir, I’m just a way better looking version of Gladys Kravitz, the nosy neighbor on “Bewitched.”
I’ll be moving along now.
You crazy kids have fun!
LOL
You have no idea how much I miss your blog (and I'm QUITE sure I'm not the only one).
Hear, Hear! Oh, please, great Blog Deity, let Mrs. Pants warm up her keyboard and let fly!
Arafin
I’m just a way better looking version of Gladys Kravitz, the nosy neighbor on “Bewitched.”
::laughs::
That was the funniest thing I've read in weeks!
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