More on Girl/Girl Equals Hot/Hot
I've received several really interesting comments on yesterday's post, "Girl/Girl Equals Hot/Hot". To those of you who responded - nicely done and thank you so much! To those who haven't yet responded, I hope you will as this topic really interests me. I'm holding the comments until a few more answer as I want to give everyone a chance to say what's on their mind without having to worry about mirroring others' thoughts. I'll approve all those comments either later today or tomorrow.
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posted by Lady Julia @ 2:33 PM
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After responding to your previous post I had one additional thought regarding the attractiveness of lesbianism to many men.
Most folks would probably say that men are more aggressive than women, more violent, and maybe this is true. Men certainly engage in more physical violence than women. In viewing the picture here of the two women kissing I notice that it does not call up in my mind any thoughts of violence of any kind whatsoever. This is a peaceful photo.
I can well imagine that men who fantasize about experiencing the emotions of women do so without wishing to experience the way in which women engage in conflict with each other. I am talking about jealously and psychological jousting that so often characterizes the way women battle each other. We just want to know what the fun stuff is like.
So, to make a long story short, I think men dislike harsh violent emotions as much as women. I think that when men view photos of two women kissing they *perceive* that no negative emotions of any kind are present in that scenario. I think that when men see a photo of a man and woman kissing they relate to the man and remember negative and harsh emotions they have once experienced, (albeit far removed from the scenario in the photo). The photo of two women kissing beckons the mind of the man to a place that is free of harshness, and because it is not something he can experience for himself, it is mysterious and thus even more inviting than a scenario which he *could* experience. Although perceptions of peace may not be real they can still be very powerful and seductive. The “promise” of freedom from violence appeals to everyone but most of all to those who feel the furthest from it.
Arafin
These pictures are so beautiful!
Lady Julia,
There are probably as many reasons why two women together appeal to men (and women) as there are those who react to the idea or sight.
To some, it is simply a visual reaction to their natural attraction to the female form. In this case it is a case of double the enjoyment without the "dilution" of a male body in the midst (something that might be difficult for you to empathize with, hehe).
Continuing with the dilution theme, female/female visual material allows some viewers to be stimulated by women in the act of sex, reacting, being visually penetrated (strap-ons, other toys, manually, etc.). All this can be appreciated, again, to the maximum as there is no distracting male image.
Then for others, it goes beyond visual stimulation to where they inject themselves into the scene in fulfillment of a fantasy. This could take many forms:
There is simply the fantasy of participating with two women, double the "targets", double the hands, tongues, etc. It is a fantasy akin to the child in a candy store with more at hand than can be stuffed into one's mouth (I'm speaking of the analogy, of course) at any one time.
There is also the fantasy of watching. In this case there is an atraction to the idea (beyond just viewing it on the tv or computer screen) of being in the same room and viewing it. This can be much more exciting than viewing from the comfort of one's living room even though the activity that the viewer pursues (you can imagine what that is) remains essentially the same.
There are other fantasies, such as the one of watching and not being allowed to participate. An extension of this is the fantasy of being restrained and "forced" to watch your woman being taken by another (dominant) woman.
I'm not going to tell you which of these fantasies I share. Not here, at least ;)
Oh, and by the way, I know of many women (personally) to whom the notion of two men together is highly erotic. The majority of them respond very positively to (and seek out) visual representations of this. Fortunately for them, there is an awful lot of gay porn out there for them to sample!
I hope this helps, or at least adds to, the discussion.
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