Anonymous Comments
Anonymous 1 - "Why does it say about a Domme when someone dumps her? Sorry about your father."
Anonymous 2 - "Why do you publish bullshit comments like the one about you being dumped? Don't you have more self-respect than that?"
It's a curious phenomenon - when you write publicly about various aspects of your life, it leads certain types of people to think not only that they know you, but they have somehow earned right to sit in judgment and say whatever they wish to and about you.
I'm not about to respond to Anonymous 1's question. First of all, Anonymous 1, you cannot read, if you could, you wouldn't have asked the question. Second, what *does* it say about a Domme when someone "dumps" her?
As for Anonymous 2's question, you were almost but not quite as rude as Anonymous 1. You're first question is a fair one, your second - well to borrow a phrase from my friend, Robert, you're an arrogant ass as well.
Whenever I publish rude comments like the above, I do so for a couple of reasons. Often it is because I think there are probably others who have similar thoughts/questions, but they were not raised by wolves and are thus not rude enough to pose such questions in public. I don't mind when my friends ask why I post such comments - as I said, it's a fair enough question, however they ask it in private and out of concern for me. That said, I'd rather post the comment and respond if I think that there are others with similar questions. I know I owe no one an explanation, but I like to straighten things out if I wasn't clear enough with my original post. Sometimes I post them because it ticks me off that people are so rude and my only recourse to respond to their rudeness is to publish their comment. I delete far, far more of these types of comments than I publish without dignifying them with a response.
If you ask me, the question isn't why do I publish them - it's why do people say such things?
I am going to strongly consider not publishing any strictly anonymous comments. If you are going to leave an anonymous comment, please make up some name for yourself so I can at least separate out the nice anonymous commenters from the charm-school drop-out commenters.
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posted by Lady Julia @ 10:05 AM
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If you ask me, the question isn't why do I publish them - it's why do people say such things?
People say things like this because they are idiots and are trying to make themselves feel better by making you feel bad.
I accept your reasons for publishing these comments, but I wonder if another reason might be that you are trying to be "fair" by offering these morons a voice. You care more about doing the right thing than almost anyone I know and I wonder if you think that it isn't fair to not let them have their say. If so in my opinion they're cowards and I don't think cowards deserve a voice.
Bravo.. and with such perfect eloquence! i think i blushed. :D
Lady Julia have you considered changing your blog settings so that no anonymous comments are allowed?
Aside from anonymous cowardly bullying tactics, i think there is another motive at play that makes some of these critters stick around. And that is, You have so much appeal, but don't quite match their extreme fetish appetite for abuse. So they try to goad You into being something You are not in order to get themselves off -- never mind that it might hurt others.
And THAT is SUCH PATHETIC BEHAVIOR.
On a positive note, if and when You choose to publish unseemly comments, i know that it is done out of a very strong sense character and self-esteem on Your part, which i believe is self-evident to Your readers.
Dear Lady Julia,
Why do you publish comments about what others have commented about what you have published?
Anonymous 3.4B
(Arafin?)
I think you should approve what you want to approve, delete what you want to delete, say what you want to say. It's your blog. I admit I have wondered why you approve some of the comments you have approved but your explanation is reasonable. Even if it were not reasonable it still all goes back to the fact that it is your blog.
Lady Julia,
You're such a wit. Unfortunately, the posters You are addressing are unlikely to appreciate how You size things up.
Certainly it's Your blog and You can do whatever You wish. As a long-time reader (now with limited computer time) i appreciate Your POV and the effort it must take to do such nice things on Your blog.
Andy asked, Lady Julia have you considered changing your blog settings so that no anonymous comments are allowed?
I have thought of it in the past, but I was loathe to do it because I was afraid some of my favorite anonymous commenters would stop posting. I decided today to give it more consideration.
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