What You Said is Not What I Heard
As a followup to yesterday's post on male/female communication, I thought I would share a link to an article on MSN, "Why Can't He Hear What You're Saying?" (Thanks L for sending this to me).
The article is a bit lengthy but I found it to be very interesting. In the article the author, Bryan Stipe, makes a number of statements regarding how the average man and woman communicate. Should you have the time and an interest in reading it, I'd love to know how accurate you think his observations are in general, not necessarily how accurate you think they are to you or your partner right now.
(I'm away til Sunday but I'll have someone approve comments a couple of times a day.)
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posted by Lady Julia @ 12:01 PM
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What's important to realize is that men and women communicate differently. Women need to understand that No, men probably don't understand you, even when you think you're obvious. And men need to understand that there are probably undertones, and if you think there MIGHT be undertones, you should ask.
As for women who feel, "if he loved me, he'd ...." do something it didn't occur to him to do -- these women get what they deserve -- men who don't have a clue what the woman wants. Just knock if off! If he loves you, he'll give you what he thinks you want. But if you don't help him to understand what you want, it's your own fault, not his.
I hear people at work talking about the difficulties they have because of the differences in communication between men and women. I have think there are two main things that contribute to this problem.
The first is blame. Many people who have communication problems with their partner feel it is the fault of their mate.
The second is a failure to communicate because they do not tell the other that they don't understand and they do not initiate any fact finding types of conversation.
In the example given by Kat's I think the man has the responsibility to ask if there are things she wants from him and should explain to her that he really wants her to be happy. The woman has the responsibility to offer the information and not treat her partner as if he can read minds.
With any type of communication difficulty everyone involved is responsible.
Men's ability to process language and understand what's being said to them begins to diminish starting in their 30s. Women retain this ability until menopause. Source: Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget by Marianne J. Legato, M.D.
I'd like to see how she drew that conclusion and if it is based on any scientific evidence. Seems like another example of a professional woman trying to make men sound less intelligent than women.
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