The Orgasm Gap and Faking It
If you think I was testy yesterday, imagine how irritated I was today to learn college age men orgasm two-and-a-half times more often than college age women. Given that women have the ability to have multiple orgasms then how can they be having orgasms at such a significantly less frequent rate?
Fortunately for me the beauty of being a dominant woman means this is something I do not ever have to worry about ;)
In all seriousness I'm really not at all upset about these latest orgasm-related statistics, but I did think the article was an interesting read and I was a bit surprised by the numbers. According to this study, when male and female college students hook up:
- 44 percent of men orgasm — compared to only 19 percent of their female partners.
- about 16 percent of the time women were much more likely to give oral sex than receive it.
- 25 percent of the time women report having had an orgasm, while the men thought their partners orgasmed 60 percent of the time.
- 97 percent of men have masturbated to orgasm, but only 60 percent of women have done the same.
Aside from the frequency issue consider the stats indicating the number of women who fake orgasms. Were you surprised by those numbers? How concerned are you or have you been with regard to the thought that your partner has/does fake orgasms?
Labels: Human Behavior, Orgasms, Relationships
posted by Lady Julia @ 1:09 PM
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There are so many variables at play here, Lady Julia, as there are with all sets of statistics, it'd be difficult to determine what is from what isn't.
Certainly, with greater experience might come more passionate results, and a more skilled understanding of one's lover, not to mention the deeper connective attraction to each spirit involved.
Statistics can not measure the depth of feeling shared between two human beings wrapped within the passion of their deepest embrace.
willie.
A lot of men are inherently selfish and extremely focused on their cocks. Especially young men. As men age they become slightly more concerned with their partner's pleasure but as they age they have to. They're not the young studs they used to be and can't keep up the old pace.
If women would wise up and harness that drive they could get as much as they want not just sexually but every other way. Women are much smarter than men when it comes to manipulating a situation to get what they want. This is the place to put that skill to the best use. If a woman said I'm not sucking your cock til you eat me, but if you eat me you'll have the best cock sucking of you're life, she'd get eaten. Hell she'd get anything she wanted.
I wonder how many of these hook-ups invloved ecstasy and what if any impact that may have. It'd be a damn shame if sex is evovling into a no-felling sport - I mean why are they even doing it then. Maybe that's why te birth rates are falling.
Its hard to make sense of this info withot seeing the data. were there regional variances? Time of da? Race/creed/colour?
In the final analysis what is probably missing for these folks is a bit of B&D/Dom(me)sub evocation!
TVH
Fakin' it
Sion & Garfunkle
When she goes, shes gone.
If she stays, she stays here.
The girl does what she wants to do.
She knows what she wants to do.
And I know Im fakin it,
Im not really makin it.
Im such a dubious soul,
And a walk in the garden
Wears me down.
Tangled in the fallen vines,
Pickin up the punch lines,
Ive just been fakin it,
Not really makin it.
Is there any danger?
No, no, not really.
Just lean on me.
Takin time to treat
Your friendly neighbors honestly.
Ive just been fakin it,
Im not really makin it.
This feeling of fakin it--
I still havent shaken it.
Prior to this lifetime
I surely was a tailor.
(good morning, mr. leitch.
Have you had a busy day? )
I own the tailors face and hands.
I am the tailors face and hands and
I know Im fakin it,
Im not really makin it.
This feeling of fakin it--
I still havent shaken it.
I am not party to any statistics regarding orgasm ratios for the university I attended, yet I can state with certainty that no women whatsoever achieved orgasms there. Sadly, it was an all male military establishment. Now, if statistics regarding male orgasms achieved while THINKING about women were to be made available, I would imagine that the ratio of attempts to successes would be nearly 100%.
Men aren't any more selfish and focused than women. Women refuse to be honest with themselves or with men. They all want cock, they all want big cock, and they all want men who know how to use theirs.
If women were honest about orgasms and also with what they want then men would be more inclined to pay attention to their needs.
Lady Julia,
I remember reading back in my high school days that men sexually peak in their 20's. The same survey said women sexually peak in their 40's.
Having been with my Lady since our 20's, I must agree with that old survey (I know I only have a sample of one which isn't statistically significant).
I would think the orgasm results are different between people in their 20's and people in their 40's. Again from my sample of one, the longer a male and a female are together, the better they learn to please ;-).
Will (RRK)
Even today lots of people are shy about talking about sex and they're also afraid to talk about it because they're afraid of hurting their partner's feelings or self-esteem.
I would much rather have someone tell me if I am not getting it right for them instead of me thinking I am when I am not.
If a woman fakes orgasm that's a big trust thing for me. From the time I found out I would always worry about that.
Nick
ted said...
"A lot of men are inherently selfish and extremely focused on their cocks. Especially young men. As men age they become slightly more concerned with their partner's pleasure but as they age they have to. They're not the young studs they used to be and can't keep up the old pace.
If women would wise up and harness that drive they could get as much as they want not just sexually but every other way. Women are much smarter than men when it comes to manipulating a situation to get what they want. This is the place to put that skill to the best use. If a woman said I'm not sucking your cock til you eat me, but if you eat me you'll have the best cock sucking of you're life, she'd get eaten. Hell she'd get anything she wanted."
I think what you have said is a little unfair. A lot of PEOPLE are inherently selfish, regardless of gender or age, and it is only natural for the young to focus on sex. And remember, if a woman has faked an orgasm, then the man things he has done right by her! How can he know it was just fake? Many guys simply don't know enough about how to please a woman, what they need to do is read blogs like these!
Also I find the idea that women need to be manipulative to get what they want a little saddening. Doesn't that defeat the point of a moment of intimacy if one party is manipulating the other to get what they want? It goes both ways, young men need to be educated so they can be BETTER lovers, rather than women educated to be WORSE lovers.
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