More About Empowering Your Lady To Dominate

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Two or three days ago I shared a few thoughts on "Empowering Your Lady to Lead". As a followup to that, I wanted to reference an article by Ms Rika entitled, "Tips For Enjoying D/s When You're Not a Dominatrix." I found this to be a very thought provoking, well written article and wanted to share it with those of you who were interested. One paragraph in particular stood out to me - a paragraph written to the wives/partners of men who wish to be dominated.

"You can't pretend it doesn't exist. It's not going to go away…if you don't handle it, it will fester and look for a release."

It sounds simple when you read it, but I think it's something that many haven't considered. Either that or perhaps they have hidden their head in the sand and refused to consider it. There are a large number of married (or in a committed relationship) men that contact me asking questions or seeking advice about D/s, BDSM, etc. Many of these men are seeking to be dominated in some fashion. Most of them don't want to cheat and most of them love their wives. But- most of them are unfulfilled and believe they have no choice but to explore outside their relationships because their wives are unwilling to even discuss domination in any form. Putting aside whatever moral issues some may have with that, the truth remains - many are searching, reaching out to find what they need. Instead of ignoring the reality, perhaps it's time to find a palatable way to compromise? I'm certainly not suggesting that a woman feel forced to become something that she clearly is not. I'm merely suggesting that perhaps if viewed from a slightly more vanilla point of view as suggested by Ms Rika, then some couples may find they are able to find a happy medium between what he wants and what she feels she is able and willing to do.

Of course, as I've said before, I'm not an expert on this subject. I'm just tossing out food for thought. There's also a discussion on this topic on the FetishLore.com forum that offers varying points of view (pro and con) on this subject.