Still More On Touchless Orgasm and Ejaculation
The discussion thread in my group about this subject (and also some of the emails I've received) have really been an interesting read. I was surprised to find that some people are totally disinterested in experiencing anything like this and I'm a little at a loss as to why. I'm not judging their feelings on this - everyone has their own thing - I'd just really like to understand what could be unappealing about this. Certainly I can see why someone would not wish to experience orgasm/ejaculation this way all the time - but as a one time or occasional experience, why not? Maybe I'm at a loss because I'm not a guy. I'd think it would be totally awesome for a submissive to know that his Mistress can control his body in such a way.
From the female perspective, it's not as difficult for some women to orgasm without touching. For me, my imagination is so vivid that under the right circumstances I can have a rather astounding orgasm without any physical stimulation at all. Certainly my FAVORITE way to orgasm is through coital sex (followed closely by oral sex) followed by ...(winks) - ok, as you can see I like it many different ways. One does not detract from the other. It's all good. Very yummy in fact. It just depends on my mood, the circumstances, etc.
Anyway - I'm curious. Is this something you'd like to experience at least once? If your response is no, I'd really love to hear why. Leave a comment. As long as it is respectfully written, I'll publish anonymous comments on this one.
From the female perspective, it's not as difficult for some women to orgasm without touching. For me, my imagination is so vivid that under the right circumstances I can have a rather astounding orgasm without any physical stimulation at all. Certainly my FAVORITE way to orgasm is through coital sex (followed closely by oral sex) followed by ...(winks) - ok, as you can see I like it many different ways. One does not detract from the other. It's all good. Very yummy in fact. It just depends on my mood, the circumstances, etc.
Anyway - I'm curious. Is this something you'd like to experience at least once? If your response is no, I'd really love to hear why. Leave a comment. As long as it is respectfully written, I'll publish anonymous comments on this one.
Labels: FemDom, Male ejaculation, Orgasm control, Touchless Orgasm
posted by Lady Julia @ 8:35 PM
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Understand that male orgasm is a bit different from female orgasm (or so I've been told numerous times!). It's a difficult thing to separate the orgasm from the physical stimulation - and truth be told, the physical stimulation very pleasurable indeed.
Men get accustomed to focusing their pleasure in their genitals. This is not a man-bashing poke; our organs are on the outside, so that's simply how things work for us.
I was fortunate to have stumbled across Taoist and Tantric practice back when I was a young lad (I used to practice yoga). It took a while to be able to appreciate sexual/sensual stimulation that was focused elsewhere.
And too, one really needs an understanding partner who has the patience to help the process along. Women are also very accustomed to men focusing attention in their (men's) genitals. For a man to try to move to touchless (or at least, minimal touching) orgasms, he needs to develop - with his partner - a way to redirect the sensitivity. I can imagine that some men would be afraid that they would have the ejaculation but without the intense physical sensations.
I must say that the thought that one would not want to at least try it is surprising. Although I have only experienced it a couple of times, I found it very intense and exciting.
The thought that someone could and did, with mere words no less, have me writhing in ecstacy has me more than a little excited now.
I would more than love to have this often. What is more, it opened my mind and peaked my interest in the power of a lady to induce erection, increased pleasure and even orgasm with a trigger word. Can you immagine the possibilities for teasing and pleasure. OH MY!
I am sure that feeling of power for the lady wouldn't be without it's perks as well :)
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Tom, I do understand of course that orgasm/ejaculation is a different animal for men than it is for women. If this was a discussion of forever abandoning touch orgasm/ejaculation for touchless, I can certainly see why men (and women too!) would be saying "huh??? Are you nuts???"
But.. objecting and concern over a one time experience? I can't see how this could cause harm in any way and I can't see how it wouldn't be exciting to try... (I know, color me dense, but I'm trying to understand).
Maybe my problem is assuming that everyone has an adventurous spirit and would want to try something that can cause no harm just because they can and because it just might be awesome.
Dearest Lady Julia and all,
as submissive male that i am, i understand that W/we are different with Women to have an orgasm.
i am sure that i can orgasm without touch my self and more easier if i am under the spell of a Goddess like Lady Julia, i confess that as submissive male to have an orgasm i have to be under the control of my owner Mistress in my mind.
Where are You Mistress?
john servant
I’m confused.There’s a revelation:) Sorry I was sitting in the back of the class listening to my iPod when I should have been copying off Tom’s paper.
Is all the teasing by the female partner the days leading up to ejaculation non tactile in nature? Aural, visual etc.
My 2 cents (which is $4.78 Bulgarian) is that this would be a wonderful experience for both partners. As a woman being that sensual would be a very empowering to my sexuality and it would be quite the challenge for this guy I know:)
Susan, there definitely was some tactile involvement in earlier days of the tease. That's part of the fun :) But on the day there wasn't any touching.
You're really creative so I'm sure you'll come up with great ways to make this tease and short term denial a really awesome experience.
Since sex is largely in the mind anyway I love the idea of making a sub ejaculate/orgasm without touching.
It is easy to get a sub to a pre-cum stage even without hypnosis just by the power of words and the fantasy realm that you can take him into.
If I knew the "how" it would give me the most supreme pleasure to take one particular man I know into this blissful realm - I can already imagine him spurting everywhere just by the power of suggestion not from any physical stimulation.
Black Widow, you don't have to use hypnosis to achieve this, but it sounds like you do a form of hypnosis already :) (Just by using the power of words and the fantasy realm that you can take him into).
Maybe my problem is assuming that everyone has an adventurous spirit and would want to try something that can cause no harm just because they can and because it just might be awesome.
Well, you know what they say about assuming...
Besides, it's not as if men would be cheated out of an orgasm - they're rather plentiful, and a short time later one could have another one the regular way to make up for it - assuming that it didn't, er, come off well.
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