Still More On Fantasies

I often find that some of the most interesting writing transpiring on my blog can be found not in what I write, but in the comments left by others. In response to the last post on fantasies, Goddess Susan wrote:

"We all know there are times when we talk to our lover but don’t hear most of what they’re saying. We’re busy forming our own response, rebuttal, opinion, etc as they talk.

In many cases, there’s a tendency to concentrate solely on “the fantasy”. To immediately make a judgement. Whether it’s appealing, why he wants it etc. and in doing so we miss an opportunity.

Remove the details of the fantasy and you have a man who is being honest, open and extremely vulnerable to you. As women we pay great lip service to craving more feelings and intimacy from our guys, well sometimes it may come in a form that we may not be initially comfortable with.

Try to view his fantasy as a portal in which you and he can walk through, into a more honest, intimate relationship, regardless of whether the fantasy is ever realized.

As for the guys, remember that your fantasies are screened thru the many filters of your relationship when you express them to your lover. It’s important to know where you are in the relationship and how she feels about "us" when talking to her. I think most women that feel truly loved and secure may be open to more than you imagine."

Wonderfully stated.