Fantasies - Again

More sage advice from the comment section:

Tom Allen wrote,

Let me add that sometimes it comes in a form that you don't get because you're too worried about what the fantasy means with regard to the us of your relationship. For example, if he mentions a 3-way with another woman, do not automatically assume that a) he's already seeing someone else, or b) that he no longer finds you attractive.

Likewise, if he mentions bondage, knee-high boots, or battery-powered egg whisks, it's not that he wants to replace you or that the equipment becomes the focus. Rather, it's that he's looking to share an experience that he hopes will lead to intimacy - his terms. And that's not a selfish "his" but an act or situation that he hopes will become a fun and pleasurable pastime.

Stop worrying if that leather bustier will make your hips look fat - that's the furthest thing from his mind. More important is the knowledge that you're willing to listen to him about this.

I especially liked that last paragraph and wanted to point out that I think the some of the same can be said to men as well. While some don't worry about how they look doing certain things or wearing certain things (or... not wearing anything), I know quite a number of men do. I've thought about this quite often as I posted those weekly pics of gorgeous male behinds and wanted to point out that even though those are fun to post, I certainly am not expecting my fella to look like that and I doubt most women my age are either. I'm much more concerned that he's loving and attentive, and adventurous.