Singing Butler

In that season,
summer with rain,
I was a bargain.

The beauty of Her trance,
once it was begun,
was that I could be
more than one person.

And so it was
that I became the consort
who danced with Her
upon the endless beach
conjured by Her hypnotic speech.

And yet I was observer too,
a butler in Her livery
who sang the dancing melody.

I am many for Her amusement
and nothing without Her.

We moved gracefully in the shallows,
rhythmically through
the tide pools of the mind.

She took the most sensitive
submissively intimate parts of me
and let them drift together out to sea
where they sank more and slowly deeper
to the sounds of Her compelling music,
Her controlling harmonies.

(c) 2006, william the submissive poet

(Artwork - The Singing Butler by Jack Vettriano)

Terrific Tush Tuesday

“Love is a hidden fire, A pleasant sore, A delicious poison, A delectable pain, An agreeable torment, A sweet and throbbing wound, A gentle death.” - Fernando de Pujas

Happy Thanksgiving

"Take full account of the excellencies which you possess, and in gratitude remember how you would hanker after them, if you had them not."-- Marcus Aurelius

Miss Manners

"There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection is the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted." ~Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behaviour

On Dasher....

Most of the time I really dislike shopping. This year I've resolved to make Christmas gift buying as fun as possible by playing a game with myself. Every time I buy a gift for someone else, I buy a gift for me. Nothing extravagant. In fact, many of the things I've purchased have been very inexpensive - items found in the local Dollar Store. Initially I thought I'd give some of these things to Rook as a very fun housewarming gift but I realized that we both like it better when the toys we use are exclusively mine - mine to use however and whenever I wish. Many of my new treasures are items that can already be found in both our homes but they're not special - they're used for every day things like laundry, cooking, etc.

Thus far I've purchased a new electric toothbrush (wonderful for stimulating sensitive areas); wooden clothespins (there are soooo many places to pinch/grip); brushes of varying sizes (so far a dish brush, vegetable brush, and a nail brush); pieces of faux fur and leather; stockings, rope, a black belt, a sleep mask, spatula, wooden spoons, a paint stirrer, a ping pong paddle (this I found at the Salvation Army), a wire whip (like the kind used to whip potatoes, seran wrap for body bondage, and a feather duster. The electric toothbrush was $10. Everything else all together was about $20. I can't wait to see what else I find.

I did find this item online and I couldn't resist:


It's a vibrating massage glove! Mmmm... can't wait to play with this. It's so easy to imagine how much fun it will be to tease his (my) cock by wrapping my vibrating fingers around it. If you consider slipping one of these into someone's stocking be sure an compare prices before purchasing. I found that prices range from $25 to $56 for the exact same item.

Weather Forecast

She moves through my mind like the weather
when She is not here and when we are together.
She can manifest Herself as the softest breeze
or a hot rain that has me begging 'please'.
She can be a storm or a perfect hurricane,
making chaos of my thoughts for a game.
But when Her words and voice become
a warm dark wind that beguiles and stuns
my senses into helpless beautiful submission,
then every aroused part of my body runs
from shivering ice to the ache of sensual burning.
I live in the eye of Her ultimate cruel tempest.
I am Her creature now and I cannot resist.


- (c)2006, william the submissive poet

Holy Batmoblie! ( or Terrific Tush Tuesday)

I always thought tattoos were ok but they didn't particularly turn me on. I think I just changed my mind ;)

Gotta love men who enjoy serving for the sake of serving. "Wax your car darling? Of course! I'd be happy to! Pleasing you makes me feel so very good." Happy service is a big plus mark in the "yes" column on the "should I dominate my partner"question. No reminding, no nagging, no arguing - he does things because he enjoys doing them for me. So many women spend years just trying to get their man to pick his underwear up off the floor. Not so in a FemDom relationship :) Thankfully so, because as Neil Chethik says, “More than anything, women want men to be aware and contribute. It is not sexy to feel like his mother.”

Respect Part Deux

Recently I posted an entry about the importance of self-respect in a FemDom relationship. As I mentioned, I think it is so important to openly define limits and to speak up whenever there is an issue of a limit being pushed too far.

My wonderful friend Robert remarked:

"To approach BDSM equipped with mutual respect and a basic understanding of consensually agreed upon boundaries, seems to me to be like that stitch in time that saves nine. Open communication can allow for dynamic adjustments. If having considered these things, a submissive elects to yield everything and chooses to have no boundaries, having thoughtfully and carefully chosen to do so with fully informed consent with someone he loves and fully trusts - do You still perceive a problem?"

I think there is still room for problems simply because we're all human. We make mistakes, we settle, we change. Communication isn't always easy. In fact, I think totally open and 100 percent honest communication is rare if it exists at all. While not everyone tells untruths, most people hold back at least a little information for one reason or another.

Sometimes the excitement and pleasure found in the moment can override good judgment. I've a friend who was so into the whippings she was receiving that she didn't want to tell her Master that on the days after she was often barely able to get out of bed (she has some form of arthritis and has a lower tolerance level than other women her age). She was afraid to tell him for fear he wouldn't "use" her again and she enjoyed the rush so much that she decided not to share the entire story with him. The choice was hers, of course, but this did negatively effect her life as on a number of occasions she had to miss work because of this tradeoff.

Sometimes people accept things because of their love for their partner. Again their choice but this can cause damage in the long run. Another friend wanted so much to make his wife happy that he did not tell her that it really upset him when she decided to add a third to their relationship. He agreed at first and honestly believed he could handle it. After the third was added, he found he couldn't sleep at night and couldn't function as well at work during the day because his thoughts were constantly drifting to this new arrangement. He didn't wish to tell his wife about his problems because he knew how much she wanted this to work. Instead, he chose to silently suffer. Turns out this was an emotional limit neither was initially aware existed.

Sometimes people grow and change over time. We may agree today that I do not want Rook to serve me by staying home and being a houseboy. Five years from now that may appeal very much to me (I doubt it but who knows). If he has surrendered everything and has no boundaries, I'd be within my rights to expect my wishes to be followed. Everything would be great as long as he wanted it too.

Having limits and communicating them protects the individual's emotional and physical health. Because of this, I would be fearful of being in a relationship with someone who didn't care enough about himself or wasn't introspective enough to possess at least a few boundaries.

More on Comments

There's been a bit of a buzz in the FemDom blog realm lately regarding comments. Should this function be allowed, should remarks be "censored", who has the "right" to comment on someone's blog?

Even though I really appreciate having the opportunity to tell someone when their words have moved me either emotionally or intellectually, I can't say I blame anyone for disallowing the comments feature or for deleting comments that are rude or antagonistic. No matter what we say or how enlightened we are, words can sometimes hurt. It doesn't matter if these comments are posted for everyone to see or if the blog owner is the only one to view them. It took me several tearful moments in my early blog days before I reached the place where things like this didn't hurt me. Until I developed an online presence, no one had ever really talked to me as an adult in a disrespectful or hurtful manner and it took a bit to develop a healthy way to deal with this poison.

It helped me to recognize a few of the more common motives. There are many out there who believe they can blithely say whatever they wish and feel totally righteous in doing so because they are exercising their "free speech rights". They don't care about the opinions or feelings of others because it's their "right" to behave as they do. Still others never moved past that emotional age in which little boys with crushes hit the little girls who were the objects of their devotion. Some simply have the self-esteem the size of a pea and wear this mask of an ego the size of Texas. You can easily recognize them - they're the ones that use big words for the sake of using big words and mock or attack anyone who dares to hold a different opinion.

Speaking of "free speech", I'd just like to add that I believe none of us are obligated to provide someone a forum to express themselves. I've read criticism this week of one particular blogger because she doesn't always post comments that disagree with her opinions. While I choose not to do this for several reasons, I do not think less of her for doing so nor do I think it's logical to say it devalues her opinions. It's her "house" and she has the right to do whatever she wishes there. Don't we all make the decisions about what happens on our blogs? Besides, if I disagree with her or anyone else, I can always generate a post on my own blog.

(By the way, for those who have left comments in the past few days, I'll respond later today or tomorrow. I'm going shopping now - that fun kind of shopping where I buy sexy/kinky things!)

Quotable Quotes

"Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation... the other eight are unimportant." - Henry Miller

In the Moment

softly
insistently
one by one
one by one by one
water drops hitting the surface
words hitting the tension of the mind

disturbance
subsidence
melding and joining
resistance without meaning
insidious pleasure building physically
external senses failing to function completely

light
consciousness
caressed and extinguished
memory being replaced by now
resonance and subservience finding beauty
echoes continuing and growing in slow ecstasy

mirrors
reflections
a mask that must be worn
dancing with avatars of the darkness
hypnotic overlays conjuring a performance
silence questioning whether anything is real

- (c) 2006, william the submissive poet

Respect

My inbox often contains a fairly large number of emails from people who are new to the concept of dominance and submission. What a wonderful place to be - poised, eager to delve into an exploration of something so wonderful...so exciting... so powerful. Thanks to the vast array of misconceptions perpetuated by the residents of BDSM FantasyLand it can also be a somewhat scary place in some respects. You may have heard of this place - the land where submissives have no rights and Mistresses are always cold-hearted, totally selfish bitches who have zero regard for the vermin who grovel at their feet.

Last week I received a letter from a man who for the past two years has been dating a woman who is naturally very aggressive and who possessed some very limited experience in "dominating" others. Initially he had been very excited because he felt she could be *the* dominant woman in his life - his Goddess. As their relationship evolved he found she frequently said very hurtful and/or humiliating statements to him and wasn't hesitant in the slightest to do so in front of others. Some may remark, "This is a the problem? Humiliation is a component of D/s relationships, right? Kneel before me you worthless pig!" While humiliation certainly is a component of some D/s relationships, it's a big limit for others. It was definitely a huge limit for this fella. Sadly, even though her remarks very much upset him and have slowly been eroding his self-esteem, he thought as a submissive he was required to accept any behavior this woman chose to exhibit. "It's her right because she's a Domme." They had not in two years time ever discussed his feelings about this nor had they ever addressed his limits.

I tried to explain to him that "submissive" is not synonymous with "doormat" and dominance does not mean possessing limitless control. Obviously I can't be sure what's really transpriing between them but I encouraged him to talk to her, all the while keeping a few things in mind. Consensual humiliation as a component of a D/s dynamic is one thing, total disregard for someone's feelings and limits is something altogether different. A submissive should never feel he/she has to accept something from a dominant because X is her right. I believe a dominant only has the right to exert his/her control within the parameters of agreed upon limits. Limits should always be negotiated at the outset in a D/s relationship and reviewed/adjusted periodically as the relationship develops.

So many are eager to experience this dynamic and the imbalance between the numbers of male submissives and female dominants is such that many may be tempted to accept a violation of limits in order to receive at least some of what they want or need. I'd encouraged anyone in this position to think long and hard before doing this. A healthy D/s dynamic requires that the submissive not only respect the dominant but that the dominant respect the submissive. Perhaps most importantly, the submissive must possess a healthy self-respect. Without it, the potential for injury and abuse is just too strong.

Toy St0ry

When the morning comes
and I cannot see
because that is a sense
You have forbidden to me,
that is when I savor
and appreciate Your power.

When Your trance enfolds
all thought and action
and provides instructions
as to what I must become,
my need to serve You perfectly
completely overwhelms me.

When You take me to the edge
of physical ecstasy
and keep me there
while You climax repeatedly,
beautiful erotic agony
burns and consumes me.

When I awake in bondage,
a toy put away
until it is the next time
that You choose to play,
the extent of my desire
burns from Your denial.

In blindfold and gag,
wrists and ankles tightly tied,
with Your conditioning file
changing me inside,
pleasure reinforces Your control.
I only want to do what I'm told.


- (c) 2006, william the submissive poet

Quotable Quotes

"A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved." - Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

Terrific Tush Tuesday

Not too long ago Sue came up with a most delicious idea. Terrific Tush Tuesday. Mmm mmm mmm. Ladies, if you blog, you must join us. Looking for photos to share certainly made my day ;)

I also like your idea, Sue, of placing a thoughtful quote under each delectable photo. I plan to shamelessly follow your lead. I've always been a "quotation" sort of person - I like reading them and have occasionally passed a few along here. Now I can develop a habit of doing so.

There's something so sexy about a man's behind. I don't care if it's deliciously firm and defined like this one or if it has a few extra pounds or a little bit of droop - a man's tush is still a big turn-on to me. While I'm not (at least for now) a big fan of strap-on play, I do very much enjoy using various plugs and/or entering that of so sensitive orifice with my fingers. Before I ever reach that point, though, I find myself really enjoying the simple pleasure of running my fingertips across the curve of his cheeks... perhaps trailing to the valley between... very, very lightly teasing. Watching him clinch in anticipation as he wonders what's going to happen next, hearing his quickened breathing as his body tingles at my touch. No matter if my fingers probe, slap, tweak, pinch or cherish... it's an intoxicatingly arousing for both of us .

Cleopatra's Throne

Last night we were marveling that, for the bargain price of $70,0000, an anonymous bidder has purchased the shades Steve McQueen wore in the Thomas Crown Affair. "Can you imagine wasting that much money on something so inconsequential?", we marveled.

Apparently we could. Within minutes we were able to identify movie/sports memorabilia that would definitely grace our homes should we:

a. inherit several million dollars, and
b. be required to spend it on something that was totally frivolous.

Rook decided he would purchase Darth Vadar's ensemble and Kirk's Captain's chair. Hmm... there's bound to be a least one kinky scene there. Dominating Darth Vadar while sitting in Kirk's chair - yum ;)

As for me, I would purchase Cleopatra's throne. Actually, there is already a spot in his home with a chair that's designated as my throne so I wouldn't even have to rearrange the furniture - just replace a chair and we'd be ready ;)

What would you buy?

Early Sunday Morning

It's the wee hours of the morning. Since I'm lying here wide awake I thought I would take a few minutes and share a couple of random things with you.

Has anyone tried Blogger Beta? I like the labels feature. It's particularly good for those blogs that are maintained for awhile. From time to time I want to find posts and simply cannot. Perhaps the new labels feature will help. There are several problems with it though. My RSS feed for this blog isn't working now and there's also a problem with it not showing paragraph breaks even though I've put them in. I had to go back and manually add the code to make them show up.

Sue - loved your Grapes of Dommes post. Laugh out loud funny in a few spots ;) Very entertaining throughout. You do have quite a following, by the way. I've received a number of emails asking if I was aware of you work and if I knew how to contact you.

For all you hypnosis fans, I've captured two different hypnosis clips from Sherlock Holmes and the Woman in Green. I'd considered putting them on YouTube but I was afraid I'd get nabbed for copyright violation. Happily I found them both online. If you have no desire to view the entire movie, choose the download option for parts IV and V. Watch part IV at approximately 6 minutes in and watch part V at approximately 2 1/2 minutes in.

Dearest One

You stir my thoughts
and thicken them with desire.
You slow my will and my intention
until I do not know them.
Your tendrils sink into my mind,
twist and twine, releasing molecules
that find receptors and bind,
controlling all neurotransmission,
and making me blind to everything
except what You wish me to see.
Your words and voice are smoke
and wind. They end and begin
and I can do nothing except
take them in and worship You
in the bargain. In Your magic
sorcery, You have total victory
over every impulse that I have.
Your mastery of hypnotic trance
contains mystery and distance
from everything that I have known.
I am alone in the midst of You
and Your intricate and erotic
fantasy. I hang in bondage,
my skin and brain sensitized
so much that I can only writhe
and suffer beyond imagining
whenever You might touch me
or use Your voice and words
to entrance and prison me further.
Please, please, O Dearest One,
if it would give You pleasure,
use my offered willing body
and make my mind nothing
before You are done.


- (c) 2006, william the submissive poet

Terrific Tush Tuesday on Saturday

Better late than never, Sue?

SueWearsThePants

I was really saddened to discover that Susan has posted her last (or almost last) blog entry. SueWearsThePants is a collection of posts offering a combination of Susan's insightful remarks and her wonderfully written series of D/s fairy tales. If you haven't read her work, you're definitely missing a delightful treat.

On his blog VeezKnight shared an excerpt from one of Sue's entries and this prompted Tom Allen to remark that perhaps Sue thinks no one is reading because the "comment" on posts section hasn't been enabled. If that's the case, we are reading Sue. In fact, I have had several of your entries read to me in the evening before I go to sleep. What a lovely way to fall asleep when he's so far away.

I hope you'll reconsider, Sue. As often as possible the world needs to hear about those rare loving and healthy relationships - kinky or otherwise.

The Edge of the Whirlpool

Satin and silk,
soft words and voice,
seduction and surrender,
thoughts becoming nothing,
I follow Your words from
the beginning.

Your eyes captivate
and then reciprocate
by entering mine and then
take them away to the depths
of trying to please
and submission.

In this scene, I am background.
I try to acquiesce, I am nothing.
I have no place
as things progress
as You might wish.
You smile as I disappear.

All is of the cereberal.
Your creation is everything.
My thwarted desire makes You sing.
My very arousal implies
that You are around to control
the way I find my mind.

Yin and yang explain it all.
Balance is a rule of law.
Your reflection watches me.
Individual souls are nothing.
Forever makes me Yours.
I am what makes you whole.

(c)2006, william the submissive poet

"Yes Mistress"

From "Sin You Sinners"

Cheesy Hypnosis Scenes in the Movies

From the Brides of Fu Manchu.

Isn't this hilarious? Even though I sometimes enjoy using my hands on his face as a component of a hypnotic induction, it certainly takes more of effort than what this "powerful" woman exerted ;)

Wax and Ice Play

We had an interesting and very stimulating discussion a couple of nights ago about wax and ice play. While I've utilized ice before, I've never tried wax. (Yes, I know - an experienced Domme who has never used wax? It's just something that never really appealed to me before for some reason.) So, as I always do when I'm considering trying something new, I've been researching a bit.

It would appear that there is a vast array of candles one can purchase from kink sites, all professing to be safer than candles one can purchase in stores. I want to play safe, but I don't want to waste a lot of money on "specialty" candles when I can buy something that is exactly the same at a department store. I know some of you have experience with this, so where did/do you buy your wax and what did you buy? Any safety tips or a non-commercial reference source online that is accurate? I also want to combine wax and ice in the same session. Any special precautions when using both?

The mental aspect of wax play is something that is far easier for me to grasp ;) I can already imagine what thoughts will be passing through his mind as he is lying there bound.. anticipating each drop.. wondering where and when each will fall. Gasping as the cold alternately touches his skin...

Smiles - it's definitely getting warm in here.

Mark Your Calendar!

Winter Soltice Day 2006 (December 22nd) has been designated as the date for the 1st Annual Synchronized Global Orgasm for Peace Day. The goal? "To effect positive change in the energy field of the Earth through input of the largest possible surge of human energy ( a Synchronized Global Orgasm."

Ok, if I must, I'll do my part ;) How about you?

Comments Comments Comments

There have been a number of comments left on my blog in the last week or so. I've responded to many of them so if you had a question or are curious as to my response to your comments, check the "My Readers Are Discussing" section on the right. There's a list there of posts with new comments.

Thanks everyone for all the participation - I really enjoy reading your thoughts.

Adding YouTube Videos To Your Blog

Catwoman asked about adding YouTube videos to blogs. I thought others might be wondering the same so even though I'm not always great about explaining how to do things I'll give it a whirl.

First, click on the "sign up" link at the top of the YouTube home page to create a YouTube account and sign in.

Wander around YouTube or search for key words that interest you. When you find something you want to share, click on the "post video". The first time you do this, you will be instructed to click on a link to set up your blog for video posting. When you do this, a new window will open.






When the new window opens, click on "add a blog site".




Choose your blog service, and enter your blog's username and password. Then click to add blog. Wait until you see the screen say "add a selected blog" You won't see this right away so wait a few seconds.

After a few moments, you will see the option to select your blog name. Check the box, then click on the add selected blogs button. After you have added your blog, close that window and go back to the page where you were viewing the video. Now that your blog is added, click the refresh option under the video box. You can choose a title and add text. Finally, click post to blog and in a few seconds, the video will appear on your blog.

Once you have done the above once, all you have to do to post a video from the YouTube site is log in and click on the Post Video option under the video.

If you see a video on someone's blog and want to use it on yours, too, click on the word "share" in the lower right hand corner of the video. Enter your own email address in the "email to" box on the left of the window that opens. After receiving the email from YouTube entitled "___ Sent You A Video", click on the link to watch the video. Log in, and post the video to your blog.

If this isn't clear, let me know and I'll make revisions til it is.

Ramblings - New Blog

I've started a new blog where I share non-kinky, non-hypnotic happenings in my life. Odds are, if you aren't my friend, you won't find it interesting. For those who are, you may find my "Lady Julia's Ramblings" blog here.