Maintaining Perspective

(I can't remember where I found this photo so if I lifted it from your blog or site, I'm sorry for not crediting you. I just loved it!)

Recently I received the following email from a man who had joined my YahooGroup and downloaded at least some of my MP3s. I attempted to ask his permission to quote him but his return email account is closed. To protect his privacy I've removed anything that I believe could identify him so that his words could be heard.

"I was just getting more and more interested in erotic hypnosis, and have only recently begun to listen to files. However, I noticed that they took up so much of my time, and get me into a different reality.

Though this is interesting to explore, I also know that it can be dangerously seductive. And since my girlfriend is away for a longer time, I cannot allow myself this to happen now. Just after i read some of your ethics txt files on your site, i decided to delete my account, delete all MP3's and wait for exploration till the two of us are together again.

Since you are concerned and ethical about this subject, I do feel that you might like hearing this. Thus without knowing you, I am very grateful, since you might have just saved a lot of nasty things from happening. "

I completely understand and applaud this man's respect for his girlfriend and for himself. Exploring hypnotic D/s is almost indescribably exciting but it should never be allowed to interfere with one's life or with one's relationships. Since this is an issue for him, he should indeed wait for the direction of his Mistress. When they're together, perhaps she can use the MP3s and/or hypnosis as a tool.

When considering the use of any hypnotic D/s MP3s or sessions, listen and explore reasonably. If you:

• are listening for hours a day
• find you're becoming consumed with thoughts of the hypnotist/Domme
• are consumed with reading about hypno D/s online
• find you're spending money you can't afford in order to buy MP3s or 1:1 sessions from someone
• find that your relationships are suffering
• find you're neglecting your responsibilities

then things have gone too far. Some initial excitement and enthusiasm isn't unexpected but things should quickly settle into a reasonable quantity of time and effort being expended in this area.