Changing Focus
Somehow over the last few months I've lost focus with my blogging. I started this journey primarily as a way to organize my thoughts about hypnosis, D/s, and the goings on in my life and my relationship. It also seemed an easy and fun way of communicating with my friends and with those people who shared similar interests. When surfing one day I discovered the blogs of a few others and in time I found myself penning posts in response to what I was reading. While there's nothing wrong with being inspired in that manner nor in standing up for what we believe, I've found that the pleasure I previously felt in online journaling has pretty much diminished. That probably makes no sense to most of you but my life's pretty tense and I really have no need to do something in my spare time that feels like a responsibility or like more work.
After thinking about this for a few days, I've decided that I'm going back to my old sources of inspiration. It's time to relax and enjoy myself like I did before. Besides, if I take myself too seriously, I'll start to look like a certain arrogant jackass some of us know and heaven only knows I couldn't stomach that ;)
Maybe you'll notice the change, maybe not. If you stick around for the ride - I'm glad you're here. If not, God bless and I hope you find what you seek. Either way, it's all good.
posted by Lady Julia @ 8:48 PM
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You are finally being smart to stop giving advice since you are not living this 24/7. How much can you know about this anyway if you can't get your man to move where you are? Go back to writing cock tease pieces like before and leave the real writing to people like Saratoga and Mistress Sky who know what they are talking about.
Getting caught up in the opinions of others can just drag you down. I get pleasure out of writing in my own blog. It'll probably grow silent the day it stops being fun.
Glad you are getting your focus back so we can coninue to enjoy your virtual presence.
Take care.
Your decision is, as always, that of a true Domme: doing what You want and not submitting to an agenda or stereotype that others would try to impose on You.
It's ironic that your "changing focus" post is so obviously focused not on what you say you want but comes across as mostly a reaction to people who annoy you.
Something to consider: The negative emotions that we feel towards others (especially online) is not about the other person; in fact, what we perceive is our own mental construct and may have very little resemblence to the actual other person.
This fact is doubly true of all online acquaintances and long distance relationships; in most cases where we create drama, we are mostly shadow boxing with our own projected images.
Sounds like a plan to me, and one that's probably overdue. This has been a stressful year, and those who respect You understand that.
Richard, you have the right idea. I thought about this a lot last night and this morning and I guess it really wasn't the writing that wasn't fun. I reached a point where I felt I had to write about certain types of things because of the readership and because of what I was reading elsewhere. In the past, if I wanted to write about a movie I'd seen or something else totally "off topic", I did. When I realized that I actually felt there were on and off topic subjects, I realized it was time to make a change. It's my blog - nothing I want to write is off topic.
Hopefully that's probably a better explanation of what I was feeling.
gamma and anonymous number two, thanks for the support. Sometimes we can get in a rut (even Dommes - smiles) and it takes effort to pull ourselves out. I want to make the effort and it's time to do do.
dick if you read anything about Lady Julia at all then you wouldn't make nasty comments about Her. She is the closest to a saint that i have ever known. She has a big following online so what She says must ring true to many people.
dick, I hesitated at first to even respond to you because quite honestly I thought you were one of my friends being all ironic and funny.
"My man" lives in a big city, I live in a small one. He's a professional person and has to do this funny little thing called work so that's why he lives there. I don't move because I'm busy fulfilling my obligation to Bill, my patient and friend. As long as he needs a nurse, I'm here.
Even if that wasn't the case, I don't see what living in the same town as my fella has to do with anything?
Shrug.
Having lived what was initially a long distance relationship of several years that turned into a marriage of 27 years, i would say that "24x7" is not limited by geographical distance at all, but is better defined by devotion of the heart. It actually takes much more focus, energy, creativity, imagination, and time to keep an intensity of love alive from a distance. And it makes being reunited extraordinarily special.
And Lady J, i love how you do this better than anyone i know by accentuating your interaction with erotic hypnosis and gentle domination. Your ability to do this over distance is a treasure and an inspiration. Commanding complete surrender and control of Your lover, his daily devotion to You and his sexuality from a distance demonstrates how powerful a Domme You are indeed!
i get all hot and bothered just thinking about it - YUM!
;)
And i love how You write as You are VERY gifted and knowledgeable in this arena.
robert
P.S. i think i'll post a sign that says "please don't feed the louts".
"Even if that wasn't the case, I don't see what living in the same town as my fella has to do with anything?"
It doesn't make sense to you Julia because you're a person of reasonable intelligence. Sounds like more of the "you're not a real submissive or real domme" crowd mentality. Now it's "you don't have a D/s relationship of any worth unless you live in the same town." I have four words to say to these children. GROW THE HELL UP.
Dick,
If, by any chance that is your real name, your parents were quite perceptive.
I have obviously never met Lady Julia. However, her mp3's have allowed me to make some very good things happen in my life and my gratitude is most likely beyond your understanding.
All I can show her in appreciation is the warm feelings in my heart when I think of someone who can, and does, do more for others than she probably realizes, even when facing challenges in her own life.
...and then you come along and demonstrate your place in the world, trying to belittle what you don't understand.
All I can surmise is you must live a very bitter, cold, and most likely lonely existance to not understand and appreciate what so many of us see as a beautiful friend.
Why do you respond to remarks made by submissive men who are disrespectful to you? You are a Domme - act like it. Some of these men would behave better after a good flogging to remind them of their place.
Why do you respond to remarks made by submissive men who are disrespectful to you? You are a Domme - act like it.
*pings needle on irony meter*
Why are you giving orders... etc., etc.
Seriously, the real issue is that there are always going to be some people who just never got the memo on respect, consideration and politeness (I'm referring to Dick, not Anonymous). I don't know what makes such people think that their opinions are going to be helpful or even well-received.
I understand what you're trying to say. Feeling as if you are losing focus is a perfectly normal situation; think of it as having reached a point where you re-examine what you want to get out of this. Hell, it's only a blog - when it stops beign fun, then do this all over again.
The Edge of Vanilla
"I don't know what makes such people think that their opinions are going to be helpful or even well-received."
I don't think they are trying to be either helpful or well-received.
Robert, I get all hot and bothered about that too ;)
Thank you all for the comments :)
I would respond to Anonymous' question, but then I would be responding to a rude commenter and somehow given his statement/question, that seems twisted... ;) (I have to give it to the anonymous crowd - they give me a good laugh.)
Lady J
However You feel best in expressing Your thoughts is YOUR best way; what other people say or think is not important as long as You feel You are getting the most out of what You do and how You do it. Obviously there are people reading Your blog that have a severely limited definition of what a Domme is, and that matters not either. This blog is for You and no one else. The people that appreciate the Domme that You are will continue to read and respond...unfortunately so will the flamers that have no idea of Domination (and most likely, of womanhood in general). Yours, Strider
Only an idiot would quote Big Dick from above and I hear some idiot has. You're wise to ignore it all this juvenile bs and move on to things of importance.
I like the focus your blog has taken.
Why is it that you cannot find a submissive man that lives in your own city? Contemplate that question. With an effort at honest self-evaluation you might eventually arrive at a logical conclusion. No submissive of any stature desires a weak, imperfect Domina.
Do you have any idea how many men would give anything to serve Lady Julia? Not someone like her, but HER. She's beautiful, intelligent, and sexy as hell. She has a grasp on dominance that appears to be elusive for some.
I have to ask, why these unprovoked malicious attacks?
So she has a big online following. This means nothing. She gives away that hypnosis drivel that so many of those mindless people would otherwise pay for. If anything she is submissive. Maybe a Dom could whip her into shape.
I'd like to hear from people that know her in person and who have seen how this "Domme" is in action?
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