A Little Initiative Isn't A Bad Thing

Yesterday I went to the mailbox and pulled out a package. I knew this package was coming and I'd been eager to determine what treasure lay inside. Last week Rook confessed that he'd ordered a surprise for me and I knew from his vague comments that it was something that we could use occasionally during our intimate times. A week or so prior to that I'd ordered something for him along those lines (smiles - that's another entry entirely) so I thought perhaps he had ordered some BDSM toy that we could use to play. (He's not topping - he has a list of things he knows I want and we're slowly purchasing them to add to our collection.) I wondered which it might be. The black leather paddle? A new set of leather ankle and wrist cuffs? Hmm. Imagine my delighted surprise when I opened the package and found a pair of very long black opera gloves. We had casually discussed gloves like this a couple of months ago and discovered we each considered them to be incredibly sexy. In truth, I think I was far more excited than he about them but my enthusiasm is usually a bit contagious :)

Last night before we spoke on the phone I undressed and donned only the gloves. When he finished telling me about his day I quietly asked him if he had any guesses about what I was wearing. He knew immediately of course and I could hear that sharp of intake of breath that signals arousal. Quickly I began to guide him into a deliciously hypnotic place and once there, I began to describe all the things I would soon do with him while wearing those gloves. Imagine the feel of velvety fingers teasingly trailing up your thigh... velvety fingers wrapping around your arousal. Mmm mm... It was one of our more memorable trances.

Even though I adore them, the gloves themselves aren't really what made this special for me. What I loved was the fact that he listened to what I wanted. We'd found a common desire (even if mine was much greater) and he had taken the initiative to provide me with the items I needed when and if I should choose to use them. It was the best sort of gift - one that stirred both my sexual desires and my emotions. Yes... I was very pleased.

Some believe submissives shouldn't take the initiative or offer their ideas about sex and/or play, but I don't see it that way. A romantic surprise is nice. Very nice. Sharing ideas is wonderful too. We openly discuss our sexual desires and ideas, not just mine. I want to know what he thinks. He doesn't pressure me in the slightest nor does he make me feel guilty if I chose not to act on his desires. I still decide what I want to do and if I want to do it so I still retain control. My ego can handle listening to his suggestions and besides, by adding his creativity to mine I've found that I have a plethora of possibilities at my disposal ;)