Dear Lady Julia

My inbox is especially full this weekend so I thought I'd take a few minutes and post the answers here for some of the more frequently asked questions. Since there are quite a few, I'll probably make this a semi-regular post.

You link to several blogs that are written by people who are very different than you. You link to a female supremacist, to people whose wives are very sadistic, etc. Are you promoting the way they think?

No, not at all. If you look at the heading for the listing of those blogs, the list is entitled "Blogs I Read". I find them interesting and thought provoking. Why would I want to read something that is a clone of what I write? :)

Are you planning on ever making another erotic hypnosis or FemDom MP3?

Absolutely. I just need to find the time to do it :) I have a number of ideas including another in the Surrender Series and also in the Kidnapped by a Domme series.

You really don't know much about controlling submissive men, do you? If you would just read some of the things written by Elise Sutton or Barbara Abernathy then you might get a better idea of what to do.

I'm sure the works of both Ms Sutton and Ms Abernathy are very informative, but I am doing quite well without how-to books and have for a long, long time ;) I'm always curious when people say something like this. What makes you think I know nothing about controlling men? It's true I'm not a Sadist, but one certainly doesn't have to be a Sadist to be in control. Like most dominant women I know, I am creative and use my intellect and my verbal skills to get pretty much whatever I want - not just from my boyfriend but from most of the men with whom I interact. I don't WANT to hurt my boyfriend, I don't want to crush his balls or cage up his penis and leave him that way for months. So - I don't. I do what *I* want within the confines of the limits set for our relationship.

What do you get from doing all these erotic hypnosis and FemDom MP3s, the website, your blog, etc. Dommes don't do things for free so either you're not a Domme or there is a catch to your MP3 offer.

This sort of question used to really offend me but I've tried to remind myself that people's negative or hurtful experiences have made them skeptical. I do all the things I do because I like doing them. Period. I have been doing all this for a couple of years now so if I had some nefarious plot, it would have probably surfaced by now ;) I do not now nor will I charge for what I do. I am not nor will I ever have the goal of taking hoards of mindless slaves ;)

I enjoy writing, teaching, honing my hypnosis skills, and being creative. Doing my website, this blog, and my MP3s allows me to do all that and so much more. As for giving things away being a submissive act - pfffft. If I sold the things I do, then my customers would in some ways control the content, frequency, etc. My way allows me to be in total control ;)

I started out doing these MP3s for friends. After a while, word spread and people I didn't even know were asking to listen to them. It's grown so much that last month my website and blog had a combined total of almost 50,000 hits. If you still think I'm not getting anything out of this, then you're not taking into account what all this does to my Domme ego ;)

Speaking of controlling.... it's a pretty heady feeling to know that hundreds of men all over the world listen to my hypnosis MP3s and fall under my control just during the time of the trance. It arouses me a little every time I think about it (grins - ok, sometimes more than a little).

Lastly - and probably first on my list of reasons why I do these things - I think we ALL (Domme, sub, vanilla, whatever) should use our gifts to make the world a little bit better because we've been here. It makes me feel wonderful to know that people sleep better, have less stress, are getting healthier, and so many other therapeutic things because of their experiences with my MP3s. If that makes me submissive, so be it ;) Being dominant doesn't mean I have to be totally selfish. It simply means I'm in control.