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| HOW DO YOU FIND A DOMME? by slavetocatwoman I hear from guys all the time who tell me how lucky I am to serve Ms. Catwoman. They say that they wish they could find someone like her. They bemoan the fact that there are so few dominant women out there. I agree that I am lucky to serve such a wonderful lady. It is true that women of such quality don't grow on trees. And it is true that there are way more submissive guys than dominant women, so the odds are not in our favor. But there is still no excuse for giving up. I am in a relationship with an attractive, intelligent, dominant woman. But this is not the first time I have been in such a situation. I'm not bragging here. I am not a super special guy. I am kind of short, not movie star handsome, I have a nice job, but I am definitely not rich. And I am eccentric as hell. So how have I been able to repeatedly do what so many guys claim is impossible? First, I agree that I am fortunate to serve such a fantastic lady. When I met her, however, she was not in the place she is now. She was interested in the whole BDSM scene, but she was confused, nervous, and very unsure of herself. I was supposed to be the submissive in the relationship, but I really was the captain of the ship at first. I realized that I would have to guide and nurture her interest before she could come into her own. We read books, had LOTS of talks, tried out different activities, went to parties. I bought her outfits, shoes, toys. Stuff that I liked, but that she liked as well. I tried to impress upon her the fact that this whole female domination thing should be fun and advantageous to her life. This is a story in itself, and I think I will go into more detail in my next entry. But the point is, sometimes a guy has to be patient even though it's not always so easy to be patient. Sometimes your fantasy woman needs a little help to fully blossom. Okay, it's true that you will not find chicks just walking around the mall wearing thigh high boots carrying whips. If you do, tell me where, because I am shopping in the wrong place. But you may be very surprised at how many women either fantasize about dominating a man, or how many have never really thaougt about it, but, once introduced to the idea, find out they really like it. When I was about twenty, I turned my girlfriend who I had met in college on to this life. I was amazed at how enthusiastically she embraced it. I actually created something of a monster. The funny thing was, I never intended to tell her about this stuff at all. It just kind of happened. I knew another lady who had zero interest in this life. I told her about my interests in an effort to dissuade her from wanting a relationship with me. I was telling her that she did not want to get involved with a big perv like me. Surprise, surprise. After we had gone our separate ways, I got a letter from her thanking me for turning her on to a whole new lifestyle. She had embraced her dominant desires, and she was never going back to her boring old ways. In the internet age, we have the luxury of the direct approach. There are so many straight and kinky personals sites. I highly advise that guys on the hunt for a lady to serve should try them. Many are free or relatively inexpensive. Post a nice picture and write a complete yet concise (and correctly spelled) profile. Remember, DOMINANT is an adjective. DOMINATE is a verb. And answer some that are promising. I have met some terrific ladies in my life through various personals. Sure, there were a lot of duds, but so what? You just gotta keep on swinging. Eventually, you will have some successes. And the experiences that go horribly wrong at least give you some funny stories. Also, there are BDSM groups and fetish parties in every major city nowadays. Attend. Get out. Go. There is nothing to be afraid of. I met Ms. Catwoman at a scene party. It was her first one. Sometimes magic happens. But you have to meet it halfway. And forget about the odds. Most submissive guys, hell most guys period, are creeps. If you stay in decent shape, shine your shoes, and chew with your mouth closed, you will be way ahead of the pack. Remember, you are not looking for a harem of dominatrixes, just one. But you have to be attractive to her, at least in some way. Brush and floss. Wear clean, up to date clothes. Have something to talk about besides how much you need to be kicked in the balls. And be single and available. The pros don't care if you're married, but a woman who wants a relationship is not interested in fulfilling your twisted little fantasies on the cheap whenever you get the itch, while she has to spend Xmas alone because you are with your wife and kiddies on the holidays. Have I had dry spells? You bet. I'm no George Clooney. I have had my share of solitary Saturday nights. But I never had a dry spell that lasted for years. |
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