HOW TO MEET A DOMME - WHAT TO SAY

August 25, 2005

In How Do I Meet a Domme? and How to Meet a Domme: Preparing Yourself, I discussed the steps you might consider taking when looking to meet a Domme.  Today, let's presume you've met someone via a personal ad or in a chat room and you want to make certain you capture her attention.  What do you say?

There aren't really any magical words, but there are some basic guidelines that should help.

• Be honest.  I can't stress this enough.  Some women have sort of a built in radar when it comes to dishonesty and dominate women are among the best with this.  If you lie we'll know or we will catch you.  If you've never been with a Dominant woman, it's difficult to imagine the depth of her fury....
• Put your best foot forward.  In a sense, you're on an interview.  If your first contact is a phone call, make certain you can talk to her undisturbed (disable call waiting, shut off your pager and/or cell phone).  Speak clearly and politely.
• Be prepared to tell her why you wish to speak with and get to know her in particular.  I receive emails every day from men who do not know me in the slightest.  They offer to serve me and do "whatever you want, Lady Julia".  Some even offer to relocate.  I either do not respond or I respond with two words, "why me?"  Most of the time, they don't reply.  I'm certain it's because they don't know enough about me to tell me why they chose me in particular. 
  
• If you're responding via email, write everything out, check it for spelling errors (yes, to many spelling counts), and then set it aside for a day if possible.  This will allow you to go back and read it with a fresh eye.
• Remember she may be a Domme but she is also a woman.  Most of us like to feel special, attractive, and dare I say it, the center of attention.  Sincerely compliment her.  Don't speak with anyone else if you are chatting with her.  Give her your total attention.*
  

Lastly... try to relax.  She won't bite... at least not during the first chat ;)

*There are several other tips listed in the two entries referenced.  If you haven't already read them, you may find it useful to do so.