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| ENCOURAGING A VANILLA WIFE
TO DOMINATE August 25, 2005 Dear Lady Julia, I'm a submissive and would love it if my wife would dominate me, but she isn't interested at all. Do you have any suggestions? anonymous writer ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ As with most I've spoken too, this has probably been a desire for quite some time. If that's the case, you've clearly thought a lot about all this and what you would derive from your wife dominating you. Have you considered what your wife would derive? When you're trying to sell an idea to someone, it's wise to focus on the benefits to the buyer. "Dear, wouldn't it be lovely to have someone wait on you hand and foot whenever you like? Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a massage whenever you ordered?" Personally, if I was as vanilla as June Cleaver, I'd love still love the idea of someone willing to do things for me whenever I asked. If your wife did agree to be your Mistress, how would you treat her? Would you shower her with attention so that you could hopefully have the pleasure of making her happy? I hope so... that's part of submitting in my book. Pleasing the Mistress is paramount, because if Mistress isn't happy... then no one is happy. So... keeping that in mind, why not make her your Mistress in your heart? You don't have to call her that out loud, but begin to think about pleasing her. If she's your Mistress, then she's your focus. When she asks you to do something, smile and say "yes" eagerly. Inside your head you can say "yes Mistress". Sooner or later, I think many women would find this appealing. She may not ever flog you with a cat of nine tails, but it would seem it would make her more inclined to consider doing some of the things you want. Don't do it for that reason alone, though. We women are smart and most of us can tell when someone is being insincere. Make her your Mistress in your heart and she may just turn into the Mistress of your dreams. If she doesn't, you're still likely to have the most affectionate vanilla wife a man could ever hope for. That can't be too bad :) (Addendum - I've read some really sad stories lately about men who approached their wives regarding domination and submission. Some pushed too hard. Some spoke up too soon. Only you know your wife and the status of your relationship. I never encourage anyone to approach their wives about FemDom because it's what *I* think is the thing to do. Only you can decide if and when it's the right time.) |
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