|SO YOU'VE NEVER BEEN
HYPNOTIZED... OR AT LEAST NOT VERY OFTEN
April 24, 2005
Recently someone approached me
and asked, "How do decide who you will hypnotize and when? I want to be
hypnotized but I can't find anyone to hypnotize me!"
I responded with my standard, "I
don't hypnotize anyone I don't know" answer and suggested they spend
time getting to know some of the tists in the hypno rooms. After
further comtemplation, I realized my response to that question could
have been far more helpful than it was. I can't speak for other
"tists", but I wanted to share some basic tidbits that may help you in
your desire to find someone to lead you into that blissfully hypnotic
state you so desire. Some points are my personal "preferences" and some
are pretty common to almost every tist I know.
- Be honest. If I ever reach the conclusion that I can't
trust you, I'll never hypnotize you.
- If you're going to IM a tist and attempt to strike up a
conversation, remember three things. Participate politely in the
channel/room conversation for awhile so that people can get to know
you. Ask permission in the channel/room before you IM. Lastly, have
some sort of completed online profile for review. Remember you're
wanting to make an impression, so show off who you are. If you have a
good sense of humor, let your profile reflect that with a funny
comment. If you're have special hobbies or talents, list them.
- Be honest. Don't fake an interest in the tist just for a
"quickie" trance. We can usually tell if you are.
- Be respectful, sincere, and show an interest in the tist as
a person. Take time to get to know him/her and let them get to know
you. No, we don't carry interview questionnaire forms, so this means
spending time in general conversation. Show an interest in his/her
interests. Are they interested in current events? Read/watch the news.
Share about your interests. Getting to know someone takes time. One of
the most important things to me is that the people I trance see me as
more than a Domme/Tist.
- Be honest (I'm making a point about honesty, huh?)
- Have a good sense of humor about things. Everything won't
always go the way you want it to - learn to roll with that and see the
humor in the situation. A sense of humor is incredibly attractive to
- Learn to accept "no" as an answer. If you gracefully accept
"no" the first time you ask, the tist may reconsider after they get to
know you better. Either way, they'll certainly respect you more.
Realize that a hypnotic session is an investment of time and energy on
the part of the tist. Yes, we enjoying doing it, but we're not always
"on". Some days, our minds/interests simply are in other places.
- (On this one - I'm speaking for the Lady Tist perspective.)
Do little, thoughtful things expecting nothing in return. Is She a
little under the weather? Send Her a get well card. Does She like
poetry, special songs, etc? You don't know? Ask Her :) She won't be shy
about telling you what She likes.
- Don't beg. Speaking as a HypnoDomme, we want you to beg
only when we want you to beg. You'll know the difference (wink).
- Be honest. Never fake a trance. If the session didn't "work
for you", don't pretend it did. Honest feedback is important. Faking a
trance is the quickest way to ensure I'll never trance you again.
Well, other than urging you
to be honest, that's all I can think of at the moment (wink).
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