HOW TO CHOOSE A HYPNODOMME

Recently someone posed the question in my YahooGroup, "How do I choose a hypnotic Dominant"? A couple of individuals responded that it's essentially the Dominant who does the choosing. While it is true that often it is the Domme who takes the initiative in pursuing a relationship, that doesn't mean that the choice is strictly one-sided. It takes two people choosing to participate to form a relationship.

So... if you are approached by a hypnotically Dominant person, how do you know it's the right one for you? (Laughs - I can just see inside some of your minds now... you're trying to imagine being in a position of actually turning down a hypnoDomme.) In seriousness, this is something that could conceivably happen. :)

If you're simply wanting the experience of being hypnotized by a Domme, then I suggest you follow the guidelines listed on my site under HypnoSensuality 101.

If you're actually seeking a relationship with a Hypnodomme, then my first suggestion is... don't let your desires drive your actions. While you may want to experience this sort of relationship very much, doing so with the wrong person can be even worse than not experiencing it at all.

Know what YOU want from the relationship. If you don't, you'll often find yourself disappointed without really knowing why. Once you're sure you know what you want and need, then you're ready to evaluate if this person is the right one for you.

Take time to get to know each other as individuals. This type of relationship can be very intense, so building it on a strong foundation is a must. Get to know her first with no expectations or strings.

Choose someone who respects and understands your limits, your needs, and your desires and who is open about sharing her needs, desires, and expectations with you.

Choose someone who has a similar lifestyle philosophy to yours. If you're into pain and humiliation and she's not, eventually you'll be disappointed and so will she. In spite of what we hope, most people don't change that much.

Choose someone who wants close to the same thing from the relationship that you do. If you're looking for a long term monogamous relationship and she wants something short term or something with several different submissives at once, again... there's a problem.

Choose someone with whom you have OTHER interests in common. HypnoDomination and submission is great, but any relationship built on one common interest is built on a precarious foundation.

Perhaps it all boils down to this. Communicate - talk AND listen. That's the best way to ensure that the keys to any good relationship flourish - trust, respect, and rapport.